"I speak with both experience and authority about the damaging effects of easy access pornography - I am glad to join forces with Rabbi Shmuley in raising public awareness of the innocent lives this has destroyed, and the relationships it is undermining. Something must be done immediately. A healthy, loving sexual experience demands both intimacy and respect, both of which pornography addiction destroys, and I am committed to raising this fundamental awareness and protecting the vulnerable enslaved in the sex industry and abusive relationships"
America’s Rabbi Shmuley Boteach and Actress Pamela Anderson Join Forces to Warn Against the Dangers of Evolving-Porn Addiction In Light of the new Anthony Weiner “Sexting” Scandal
New York (Sept. 1 2016) -- Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, relationship expert and best-selling author of Kosher Sex and Kosher Love, has aligned with actress Pamela Anderson to warn against the dangers and pitfalls of erotic-porn addiction. While this may seem like an unlikely pairing, the two offer interesting sides of the spectrum on the debate of the hazard of pornography, brought to the headlines once again by the recent indiscretions of Anthony Weiner, husband to Huma Abedin, Hillary Clinton’s trusted advisor.
“If anyone still had doubts about the addictive dangers of pornography, Anthony Weiner should have put them to rest with his repeated, compulsive, all-consuming and self-sabotaging sexting,” said Boteach. And if anyone still doubted the devastation that porn addiction wreaks on those closest to the addict, they should behold the now-shattered marriage of Weiner to Huma Abedin - a break-up that she initiated, reportedly, in shock at the disgraced ex-Congressman's inclusion of their four-year-old son in one lewd photo that he sent to a near-stranger.”
Shmuley goes on to say that from the respective positions of clergyman-counselor (himself) and Anderson as former Playboy model and actress, both have come to the same conclusion about pornography's “corrosive effects on a man's soul and on his ability to function as husband and, by extension, as father.” Shmuley asserts this is a public hazard of unprecedented seriousness given how freely available, anonymously accessible and easily disseminated pornography is nowadays.
According to data provided by the American Psychological Association, the statistics already available are deeply disturbing. Porn consumption rates are 50 percent to 99 percent among men, and 30 percent to 86 percent among women, with the former group often reporting less satisfactory intimate lives with their wives or girlfriends as a result of the consumption. (By contrast, many female fans of pornography tend to prefer a less explicit variety, and report that it improves their sexual relationships.)
Nine percent of porn users said they had tried unsuccessfully to stop - an indication of addiction which is all the more startling when you consider that the dependency rate among people who try marijuana is the same - 9 percent - and not much higher among those who try cocaine (15 percent), according to the National Center for Biotechnology Information.
Shmuley asserts: “Whereas drug dependency data are mostly stable, the incidence of porn addiction will only spiral as the children now being raised in an environment of wall-to-wall, digitized sexual images become adults inured to intimacy and in need of even greater graphic stimulation. They are the crack babies of porn.”
As Rabbi Shmuley documented in his book The Broken American Male, Weiner’s behavior squares with what is often prevalent among many men, especially in the United States or other Western countries that enjoy liberal values and material prosperity. These are men who, by any objective measure, have succeeded - yet regard themselves as failures. These are men who feel marooned in lassitude because they enjoy physical security, who feel bereft and bored even if they are blessed to have the committed love of a wife or girlfriend. These are men who believe that cruising the Internet for explicit footage of other women, or sharing such images of themselves over the remote communication offered by smart phones, are risqué but risk-free distractions from the tedium.
“They are wrong,” asserts Rabbi Shmuley. “The march of technology is irreversible and we are not so naive as to believe that any kind of imposed regulation could ever reseal the Pandora's Box of pornography. What is required is an honest dialogue about what we are witnessing - the true nature and danger of porn - and an honor code to tamp it down, in the collective interests of our wellbeing as individuals, as families, and as communities.
“The iniquitousness of porn is an outgrowth of the sexual revolution that began a half-century ago and which, with gender rights and freedoms now having been established, has arguably run its course. Now is the time for a new epochal shift in our private and public lives, a “sensual” revolution that would replace pornography with eroticism - the alloying of sex with love, of personality with physicality, of imagination with the body's mechanics, of orgasmic release with binding relationships.”
“We need to learn to make love again,” says Pamela Anderson “Not pop a pill or download degrading, aggressive sex displays that leave us numb and sexually disoriented. We can no longer afford of desensitization that makes us inadequate lovers in relationships that lack respect and dignity. Simply put, we must educate ourselves and our children to understand that porn and sexting strangers is for losers - a boring, wasteful and dead-end outlet for people too lazy to reap the ample rewards of healthy sexuality.”
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, “America’s Rabbi,” whom The Washington Post calls “the most famous Rabbi in America” is the international best-selling author of 31 books, including “Kosher Sex,” “Kosher Lust,” and “The Kosher Sutra.” Rabbi Shmuley serves as Executive Director of The World Values Network and is an acknowledged relationships expert.
Pamela Anderson is an activist, author, and actress best known for her role as CJ Parker on Baywatch. Through the work of The Pamela Anderson Foundation she has courageously spoken out against the pitfalls of pornography and domestic abuse and how we must protect precious, loving relationships.
Paige Acebo - Assistant to Rabbi Shmuley Boteach firstname.lastname@example.org
Pamela's Foundation www.pamelaandersonfoundation.org