Top 10 ways to survive Hollywood

So, 

How to make it in Hollywood and Survive it? (If being a woman...)

I guess one should meet all -

1. Look the part, right. To meet the current standards of beauty - be super skinny, like size zero, max size one. But also be super sexy at the same time. I personally do not fancy size zero skeletons. Not to mention that in majority of cases, this size is reached by some sort of eating disorder. Maybe having eating disorder is a criterion of success.

2. Be certain age. I guess under 35. Or at least look under 35 From what I read, to be a woman over 35 in Hollywood is a solution to "how to be invisible".  There is like handful of women who make it beyond this age, and do not play the queen or witch or similar. 

3. Be white. Similar to previous point, one can count successful people of colour on one hand. There is a limited scope for diversity in Hollywood and those roles are already assigned. And if you are one of those diversity people, make sure you know you represent your whole ethnic group worldwide. 

4. Dont win Oscar too early in the career. So here you can look at what roles one can take to make it. I heard of the Oscar curse too early in the career. Like the death by success. Or something like that.

5. Choose politics based on the current trend in Hollywood. Go only with the current mainstream politics. For example, now you must love Hillary Clinton and still grieve that she is not the President. Refrain from any criticism of the DNC. Certainly do not support anyone even remotely progressive. Remember what happened to Susan Sarandon and her support of Bernie Sanders. Basically have a sheep and crowd attitude to politics.

6. Choose some appropriate sobbing causes to support ~like starving children or saving some "developing" country. Or protect women as they are helpless (by definition). Supporting Wikileaks and any revolutionaries is a big no. If you support free speech, make sure you only support free speech of some people. Not free speech for all.

7. Do not have any opinion of your own. And if you do, make sure you apologise for it. See many people's experience re the current scandal with sexual harassment. There are other examples 

8. Do not have respect for yourself if you want to survive in Hollywood. You must be ready to derive respect from what others think of you. If they think you are need to start from picking the trash (trash films), just believe them... But pick trash smartly...right?

9. Get to know famous people or better date them to suck their following out of them. They are usually insecure and easy to catch. 

10. And we all know the famous casting couch is alive and well - except when it doesn't work and you don't get your way. Be careful. Those days are over. 

Feminism

Feminism should be about strong women and strong men. Women (and men) who are confident, know themselves, know what they are and what they need (not just what they want in particular time) enjoy themselves and care about others and themselves. Women who are aware of their power and beauty (external and internal). Women who are smart and intellectually curious and seek knowledge and wisdom. Women who know how to be sexy-  get good sex and give it. 

It is not about women being like men but about equality in the society and in relationships. equality of sex. and the quality of it! ;)

Hefner seemed that he really understood it. He was quintessential second wave feminist and was really crucial in it. It is prudish opponents and censors who brought us the third wave and all this awful censorship of relationships and PC talk and other nonsense.  and these young women and men are really messed up with it.

I know I keep saying this - 

How- I think the sexual revolution gave us a lot of sex and a lot of bad sex. 

I think it is impossible to understand the current "feminism" without understanding of what has been happening since 1960s. 

We must help each other understand this- urgently 

What inspired me to write a book - Lust for Love- The Sensual Revolution - April release - but timely conversations happening now -

The impact of the internet and it's impact on human relations but also relations between individuals and states (in particular USA) and companies (running surveillance machine) -
People do not realize this and also the clickbait model and dependency that the digital giants including social media ran. big issue. It is obviously related to porn since most of the porn is available online. So the internet was supposed to liberate us and now, it is mostly about porn, computer games and gambling... and surveillance on the top of it.

Relationships between men and women and intimacy in the society. And tendency of oscillating between two extreme - sex without intimacy or puritanistic approach.

Building on the previous issue, broader problem of contemporary feminism and sex..
I mentioned this in one of my interviews, how The Sexual Revolution gave us a lot of bad sex...
I think what is happening now, with third wave of feminism and #metoo and other nonsense, stems from that. one cannot understand the current issue without understanding what has happened since 60s.
And how third wave feminists see men and how they want the state regulate intimacy (see the Swedish extreme approach). and where is individual responsibility for bad decision and where is sexual abuse and how the 3rd wave feminism conflate everything and this is not moving the society anywhere further.

Which leads me to Playboy-
my experience.

Hefner-

Hef elevated the girlie mag from the gutter made it intelligent and sophisticated Men who were worldly and appreciated the art of romance and sex men who didn't abuse women - Hef was not part of that mentality at all in fact he was opposite and a lover of the woman in all her capacities not as objects -as mates-

He gave countless careers to young women and the playboy gentleman was taught to court a sophisticated woman not oppress her but to be her equal. Style was a feminine ideal until Hef made dressing well for women important and jazz and have Aretha Franklin one of her first TV appearances everyone was equally appreciated and abuse of any degree wasn't tolerated at the mansion-
It was the sexual liberation of women /men and the social cultural education for men to be able to attract these new smart worldly educated women Hef taught men how to attract the modern powerful female-
A man dressing well for a woman etc

“Enough is Enough!” Pamela Anderson Teams Up With PAVE to Help End Ongoing Sexual Assault of Ride-Hail App Users

If we were all told as children to not talk to strangers, why do we seem to believe in the inherent safety of getting into a car with one? Ride-hail apps have been problematic since their inception, from the poor treatment of their drivers to the never ending drama between executives and shareholders, but the most harmful on the list of problems are the incidents of drivers sexually assaulting passengers. To date, hundreds of sexual assault incidents have been reported, with multiple class action suits filed. And while these companies claim to be doing everything they can to mitigate this issue, there still seems to be dangerous gaps in the process of vetting drivers. 

Enough is enough! 

As a response to the never ending allegations of drivers assaulting passengers, PAVE, (Promoting Awareness & Victim Empowerment) has teamed up with the legendary Pamela Anderson to launch a PSA about the dangers of inherently trusting just any driver. Founded in 2001 by Angela Rose in response to her own experience of being kidnapped from a shopping mall and sexually assaulted when she was 17, PAVE empowers students, parents, and civic leaders to end sexual violence with prevention education. Being a victim of sexual abuse herself, Pamela jumped on the opportunity to shed light on this issue and help bring awareness to the fact that this problem is not being adequately addressed.

“I think that the issue of safety of passengers needs to be addressed jointly with the whole way how gig economy works,” says Anderson in between takes during last week’s PSA shoot in Manhattan. ”In addition to pushing for tougher driver screening programs, the position of drivers and conditions under which they operate must be addressed. So Uber and other companies have to stop pretending they are just operating software that links drivers and passengers as they are much more. And with that, comes more responsibility which they so far have largely refused to accept.”

Pamela also notes that this campaign is not an attack on drivers as a whole, but suggests that poor working conditions may be a deterrent for experienced drivers with a penchant for professionalism, leaving the door wide open for those who should not be trusted in the driver’s seat of these vehicles.

“I find it really pathetic how these companies exploit their drivers,” she adds. “They are not considered employed even if they exclusively work for these companies. They get no sick pay, no holiday pay. They are supposed to be liberated entrepreneurs but they are de facto precarious workers exploited by global companies. So, it is important to remember that when trying to fight for safety of passengers, this is not a fight against Uber drivers and this needs to go hand in hand with attempts to draw attention to the conditions under which they operate, and how the companies are taking advantage of them. These issues are linked and should be addressed jointly.”

As a survivor herself, Pamela continues to be a powerful voice for women, in spite of backlash she received over her comments made on a recent episode of Megan Kelly Today which seem to have been taken out of context. After sharing her own story of being bullied by Harvey Weinstein and the fact that she is not surprised about the multitude of allegations against him, she made reference to the fact that throughout her career, she was presented with opportunities and gifts that she vehemently avoided. Some feminist groups took offence to Pamela’s suggestions that women - especially women in Hollywood - need to keep their eyes open and their guards up, and chalked it up to victim blaming.

“I did not say that women deserved being abused or that the pigs like Weinstein were not to be punished,” Pam wrote on her Instagram account following the backlash she received. “Quite [the] opposite. I said myself that Weinstein is a sexist pig and a bully. So this is not victim blaming, but looking at the issue from the angle of women being aware of certain problems and how to spot them and fight them. It is totally hypocritical to ignore this. And it is not helping anyone to ignore the realities in the society we live in. The causes of the problem and solutions are complex and women who do not live in the utopian bubble must be aware of what is going on. And that is what I have highlighted.”

The PSA is scheduled for release on January 9th, 2018.

Pamela Anderson Loves Coco de Mer

I am so excited to present my first lingerie collection, in collaboration with Coco de Mer. Designed by women for women, the collection combines glamour and femininity with a touch of my famous flirtatious fun. A modern take on 1960s pin up, I have chosen my favourite silhouettes to flatter the female form and empower women to look and feel their best.

www.coco-de-mer.com/pamela-anderson-loves-coco-de-mer/

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I think this narrative of "victim blaming" and "lack of solidarity" is trying to coerce me (and others) into consensus on something that should be debated and discussed broadly.

I can tell you that from my experience of working on protectin - be it a protection of journalists and human rights defenders and internet security - there is ALWAYS a call and recommendation to see the issues in their complexity. There is understanding of a need to address the issue on structural and legal level, to punish perpetrators but also to build resiliance and ability of "self-protection". What techniques you should use online, what precautions you should take when covering certain issues as a journalists. There are also a lot of self-protection courses. There is even a well known story of suffragettes learning martial arts and protection when doing activism for right to vote.

I did not say that women deserved being abused or that the pigs like Weinstein were not to be punished. Quite an opposite, I said myself that Weinstein is a sexist pig and a bully.

So this is not victim blaming but looking at the issue from the angle of women being aware of certain problems and how to spot them and fight them. It is totally hypocritical to ignore this. And it is not helping anyone to ignore the realities in the society we live in. The causes of the problem and solutions are complex and women who do not live in the utopian bubble must be aware of what is going on. And that is what I have highlighted.

I do NOT wish apologise for what I said.

And will not get coerced into apology.

This exactly what I am saying is a problem with the contemporary "victimhoood feminism"! The people who subscribe to that notion tolerate and actually expect women to talk about the stories of abuse and experiences with creeps.

But they would NOT tolerate a woman with her own opinion. So pathetic.

Pamela Anderson Opens Up About Her Friendship With WikiLeaks’ Julian Assange | Megyn Kelly TODAY

Pamela Anderson opens up to Megyn Kelly about her work with the Ride Responsibly campaign, her abusive relationship with ex-husband Tommy Lee, and friendship with WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange, whom she calls "funny" and "brilliant," though she adds, "I wouldn't call it a romantic relationship."

Meghan Kelley/Today Show Interview

Somebody had to say this. Please don’t worry. Refer people to my blog and long standing commitment to defending the vulnerable. We have tho power to be safe and free by using common sense. My message is consistent throughout.

Daily beast is anti Wikileaks - and they probably want to discredit me before part 2 (the WL part)

Megyn Kelly is great - I'm happy with interview.

www.thedailybeast.com/pamela-anderson-blames-harvey-weinstein-victims-you-know-what-youre-getting-into-if-you-go-to-a-hotel-room-alone

'Hi Pam – So the Megyn Kelly interview aired this morning and some of the media are saying you were victim blaming when you spoke about Harvey Weinstein and women going alone to hotel rooms to meet with producers, etc. I diffused a lot of it by stating “as a victim yourself you would never blame other women and that you are a huge advocate for women, etc.” See below article from the Daily Beast, let me know if you want to say anything so we stay ahead of this. " (from my publicist/Ann)

I don't need any defense - but thank you Ann.

I'm a deep thinker / I have a unique perspective.

And consequence is part of my life. This is great.

I am also an advocate for men.

I just don't agree -

Backlash is good. - I like this.

My position is not 'problematic' because I doesn't fall in line with 'the common herd' or trend.

I'm trying to tell women as an childhood abuse survivor myself - be proactive as an adult who knows better - in defending themselves. Don't get in cars with strangers #rideresponsibly-

Don't go to Hotel rooms alone for an audition. Women are powerful and smart and we can use all our charms in more positive ways.

I think it’s very smart - proactive.

And I stand by what I say.

My mother taught me - protect yourself. Especially with my ‘image’’ - she and I were worried it could give people wrong Impression.

I am not an easy girl and have not had as many partners people might think. I believe in love and commitment and common sense.

This is why I'm usually married.

It is how I feel safe and protected in a sexual relationship. 

A monogamous lover is the best and most brave lover I only want intimate sexual experiences - where I can be free to give my wildest fantasies to someone who loves me.

and never have used sex as a weapon. It's just too easy.

To say I am victim blaming completely misconstrues my point. Victims are not to blame, they never are. I, myself, am a victim of sexual abuse, and I know that predators are always to blame - solely and entirely. That doesn’t mean we can’t take common sense measures to keep ourselves safe and avoid harmful situations. Victim trauma has long paved the way; there are always key learnings from which we can all benefit. It’s the same reason I support Ride Responsibly and say “don’t get into a ride-hail car with a total stranger.” Until drivers for the apps undergo stricter background checks, I say “think before you app.”

Hopefully now we are all armed and empowered and can take steps to protect our own safety and well being.

All blame lies completely with the predators themselves. I am just saying the more you know, the safer you are. This is a very powerful moment in time, and everyone has a lot to learn from all this. In light of all these revelations, if a business associate invites you to his hotel room – or if you are sent there by a liaison of his – and he answers the door in his bathrobe, you should walk away. We can now learn from these unforgivable crimes and take steps to protect ourselves.

PART 1

Pamela Anderson opens up to Megyn Kelly on everything from the perils of being a woman in Hollywood to dealing with her trauma as a victim of childhood sexual abuse. She says people underestimate her: "If I form a complete sentence, I'm a genius."

PART 2

Pamela Anderson opens up to Megyn Kelly about her work with the Ride Responsibly campaign, her abusive relationship with ex-husband Tommy Lee, and friendship with WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange, whom she calls "funny" and "brilliant," though she adds, "I wouldn't call it a romantic relationship."

#besafe #noblame #besmart