Goodbye Hef

 
Mr Hefner
I have so many thoughts, I have no brain n right now to edit
I am me because of you
You taught me everything important about freedom and respect.
Outside of my family
You were the most important person in my life.
You gave me my life... People tell me all the time
That I was your favorite...
I'm in such deep shock.
But you were old,
your back hurt you so much.
Last time I saw you
You were using a walker.
You didn't want me to see.
You couldn't hear.
You had a piece of paper in your pocket you showed me -
with my name Pamela with a heart
around it.

Now,
I'm falling apart.
This feeling is so crazy.
It's raining in Paris now.
I'm by the window.
Everything anyone loves about me is because you understood me.
Accepted me
and encouraged me to be myself.
Love like no one else.
Live recklessly
With unfiltered abandon.
You said the magazine was about a girl like me. That I embody the spirit you fantasized about.
I was the one.
You said.

I can hear you say -

Be brave.
There are no rules.
Live your life
I'm proud of you.
There are no mistakes.
And with men -
Enjoy ... (Your wonderful laugh)
You have the world by the tail
You are a good girl
And
you are so loved -
You are not crazy.
You are wild and free
Stay strong,
Stay vulnerable. ... "It's movie time"

You loved my boys ... You were always, always there for us.
With your love
Your crazy wisdom.
I will miss your everything.
Thank you for making the world a better place.
A freeer and sexier place.
You were a gentleman
charming, elegant, chivalrous
And so much fun.
Goodbye Hef ... Your Pamela

Wonderland Magazine

What are your thoughts and feelings on the state of America in 2017?

America has always been a divided country; a country with lots of skeletons in its closet. This goes against the story we tell ourselves, but it's true. It always boils under the surface, but at times like this it all comes out and we can't pretend anymore. This is a dangerous time, but it is also a time of opportunity. We can make everything worse or we can use this moment of awareness to put injustices right and begin to heal. I am hopeful. 

Do you think young people are more interested now in seeking out the truth in terms of power and the political or are they too obsessed with false narratives and social media surface? Are those two things even mutually exclusive?

Young people are not given nearly enough credit. "Millennials" get blamed for everything! But young people are dealing with a very different world. And they are in a better position to understand the world as it is now. I don't think these two things are exclusive. Social media can be escapist and promote false ideas. But I think young people are aware of this. They don't need to be lectured. And young people are in a better position than ever to think for themselves and question official narratives. They can go around the commercial media, which is often wrong. I think young people are more politically engaged now than they have been in generations. 

Your social consciousness appears to have flourished as the years go on. From PETA, Climate change to your work and support of Julian Assange- why are you so passionate about these causes and what spurs you on to continue ?  & Why do you do what you do? What motivates you?

Firstly, the desire to help other living creatures, but secondly, the need to spend my time trying to do something meaningful. Everyone looks for meaning in their lives. I think when we can find meaning in trying to help others, that's better for everyone. That's what motivates me in my activism.

As a kind of storyteller, where do you see yourself in the spectrum of true narratives and false lies in society? Does it matter? 

Or false narratives and true lies? Truth matters very much. It is one of the most important of all things, because without it how could we even think about anything else? But we cannot forget the deeper truths that are found in literature, film and art. I try to pursue these deeper truths. 

Environmental issues are obviously very close to your heart. Is ecological decline and chaos the thing which terrifies you the most? & Are we living in the end times? Or does every generation feel that sense of the apocalyptic?

I think it has more truth now than it ever has done. The threat to our environment is very serious. It is the most important issue for all of us. I don't think we are living in end times, because I think there are still things that can be done to save the planet. And we must. If a sense of impending doom makes us take all of this seriously, I think it's healthy. 

Do you believe in the power of the internet or do the trolls and weirdos put you off?

They do not put me off. The internet didn't invent trolls and weirdos. The world has always been full of strange people! As someone who was a celebrity before the internet became really popular, there were plenty of odd people then too. Some of them even work in show business! What I think has happened is the internet gives everyone the experience of celebrity - all you need is a social media profile and you're visible to everyone in the world. So now everyone has a taste of what it is like when you get unwanted attention like that. What is the solution? If you are famous you have to learn to be a bit cautious, and not put everything in the open. I think it would be nice if the social media companies taught people how to do that, and didn't just lure everyone into a false sense of security. I think the companies should answer for a lot of it.

You’re an American icon who’s been talked about and written about by all kinds of people and in all kinds of ways. Do you read your own press/gossip? Having been in the public eye for so long, do you feel you have control over your own narratives? What does freedom mean to you?

We are not free unless we can have adventures in our life. Unless we have a sense of wonder. 

In London... and, for the animals

The biggest UK priority at the moment is urging the government to follow through on its promise to ban circuses that use wild animals.
PM Theresa May needs to act - it has vast bipartisan majority support but MPs keep sitting on it and saying they'll introduce "when parliamentary time allows". The bill that was drafted 2 years ago after 94% of Britons said they support it.

Austria, Belgium, Holland, Slovenia, Mexico, and many more have banned them -England, which was the first country in the world to pass legislation to protect animals, but is now lagging far behind other countries on this issue.  

In some UK circuses, lions and tigers are carted around the country and beaten to perform - until a ban comes into effect, there's nothing to stop circuses from acquiring more wild animals. Circuses force wild animals to live chained inside of cages or pens - whips, muzzles, and electric prods are constant reminders that these animals are being forced to perform out of fear.

Pamela
 

While in Stockholm - My thoughts.

I get asked quite often my views on Feminism.
I don't love labels. I am not a 'Feminist'. I am female -
and appreciate the great strides women have fought for with dignity and grace.
But I don't like to be told how to be a woman.
By a woman or a man.
If I want to stay home and raise my children or work - this is my choice and both are admirable -

How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?
Anaïs Nin

I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.
Anaïs Nin

I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.
Anaïs Nin

As for 'progressive-ness'

Sweden has a very conservative form of feminism. Quite Victorian. That presents women as helpless innocent victims all the time. (Even Danish and Norwegian feminists are repelled by it)

But perhaps that is an opportunity. Celebrating women's self determination, strength and responsibility and part of that is to treat women as adults who have the strength to harm. And that doing so advances women.

And
I also believe false rape claims should be treated with the same seriousness as rape. And sex laws need more clarity.
Sex is full of mistakes in discovery .. young men's lives are ruined too when we insert fear and blame.
To protect women is admirable.
But young men deserve the same respect.

It's hard to forgive Sweden for what they did to Julian Assange...
adding senselessly to the nightmare. The unfairness.

We both have a passion for truth. I think this is the undercurrent of our connection. In love and war.

I am curious how they use this political carrot- feminism - upping the anti every political cycle to gain votes but mislead women into thinking this is good for them.
I think it's slightly destructive and paralyzing - in relationships.

I feel sorry for young people dating in Sweden.

Parenting is most important. I parent like I love - it is a dance. Esp with boys. To hold their attention gracefully. As a mother we play such complex roles. I always think of. How am I preparing these young men for the world. How will they contribute their hearts, minds and talent... ?

And in my view-
America is not free -

When I speak with Julian - I sometimes try to console him.
People have a hard time with the truth.
They can't bear it.
There is danger in knowledge. And responsibility ..

And this is why some hate... and place blame ... on him and others that reveal it - it is misdirected fear and confusion.

I think Julian and I compliment each other - his voracious appetite for specifics, detailsand
and my poetic madness ...
always.

Makes for an always interesting and sexy vegan lunch.

Pamela

Letter to Kim Kardashian

Dear Kim, 

It was lovely seeing you at New York Fashion Week. I've had the pleasure of getting to know you over the years, and I can tell you're a good person with a big, beautiful heart. I'm writing to ask you to extend your compassion to real fashion victims—the animals who are violently killed in the fur trade—by swearing off fur this winter. I think you'd be horrified to learn that every single fur farm that PETA has exposed has been beyond cruel: Investigators have witnessed and documented that foxes are electrocuted, dogs are bludgeoned to death, and raccoon dogs are skinned alive. Just last month, video footage from a fur farm in Poland revealed that foxes are being kept inside filthy, cramped, dark cages and that some had missing eyes and rotting jaws. The footage was released on the heels of another investigation showing that foxes are being selectively bred to grow to an enormous—and dangerously unhealthy—size so that their pelts will be larger and fetch more money. 

Times are changing, though: Gisele Bündchen made a bold statement against fur on the cover of Vogue Paris earlier this summer, and Austria, Croatia, the Netherlands, Slovenia, the U.K., and other nations have taken a stand against cruelty by abolishing all fur farms. First lady and former fur-wearer Melania Trump recently swore off fur, following in the footsteps of so many fashion icons and first ladies. You know I love you, and you can be a hero for animals as well as a great example to all your beautiful followers by swearing off fur. Please do the right thing. You'd be praised all over the world, including by my close friends at PETA. Kind regards, 

Pamela Anderson 

Email to Canada Goose Employees

I hope this e-mail finds you well. On behalf of my friends at PETA and kind people everywhere, I encourage you to use your unique position as a Canada Goose employee to urge the company to end its use of coyote fur.

Despite what your employer might tell you, the traps used to catch wild coyotes whose fur is used to trim Canada Goose's coats crush the animals' necks or snap shut on their legs, often cutting to the bone. The coyotes can struggle and suffer for days in a trap, and those who don't die from exposure to the elements, blood loss, infection, or attacks from predators are shot or bludgeoned to death when the trapper returns. Victims desperate to free themselves from traps—some of whom are mothers with starving pups waiting for them—will even attempt to chew off their own limbs. Please watch this 15-second video and I'm sure you'll understand why I'm so concerned.

There are no regulations in the fur trade that prevent this kind of suffering, but there are many beautiful, innovative materials that we can use instead of fur. That's why hundreds of major designers and retailers—including Arc'teryx, Giorgio Armani, Helly Hansen, The North Face, Patagonia, Ralph Lauren, and REI—have already eliminated fur from their lines and use luxe modacrylics and other innovative materials that are just as warm and beautiful as animal fur without any of the cruelty.

Please, use your insider advantage to urge Canada Goose to make the simple transition to using exclusively animal-friendly faux fur or remove the fur trim entirely. It would be a move that millions around the world would support, and I'd be the first to celebrate such news.

Thank you for your compassion. Sincerely,

Pamela Anderson